I often think of Adam’s first wife, Lilith – mostly because of all the witches that surround me.

Defiant, unrelenting, focused, determined, uncompromising, self-possessed, difficult, vice-president, chief-executive officer: these are often the labels that are associated with them.

Their love – is too much.

Oh love
No love is ever wholly undemanding
It can pretend coolness
Until the pain comes
Until the first baby comes
Howling her own infant need into a universe
That never summoned her

– Erica Jong